What to Do First After a Separation
Before the house, before the furniture, before any of it — the three decisions worth making first, and the ones that can safely wait.
ReadA journal for anyone beginning again. On grief and courage, on what to carry forward and what to set down, and on the quiet work of making a home that is unmistakably yours.
Before the house, before the furniture, before any of it — the three decisions worth making first, and the ones that can safely wait.
ReadWhy the sweater in the drawer is harder than the house, and how to let go of things that still hold someone.
ReadA gentler method for sorting a home you are leaving — one that does not rely on willpower, and does not end in a storage unit.
ReadNot the life you planned, not the one you are mourning — the one you are actually living on an ordinary Tuesday.
ReadSetting up a house your children only live in half the time — and the small things that decide whether they relax in it.
ReadWhat actually happens after the move — including the week in month two that nobody warns you about.
ReadThere is good evidence that the height of a ceiling changes the kind of thinking you do beneath it — and that one house needs more than one kind of room.
ReadPatients recovering from surgery needed less pain medication when their window faced trees instead of a wall. What that finding means for a house you are living through something in.
ReadBlue walls for creativity. A messy desk for breakthroughs. Several of the most repeated claims about home design failed when somebody checked.
ReadWalking through a doorway makes you lose your train of thought — but only when the two sides are genuinely different. There is a lesson in that for a house you are rebuilding.
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